

How do you find love that lasts when everything in your life has taught you that you’re a failure at picking the right man?
That’s the one dilemma quick-witted, beautiful, fiercely capable Shelly Green just can’t seem to solve. Sure, she’s conquered business, motherhood, addiction, and the art of keeping her friends laughing. But lasting love still eludes her.
When heartbreak sends her to a jungle medicine retreat, Shelly dives into a whirlwind of ancient spiritual ceremonies designed to crack her open and equip her to change her self-defeating patterns. But back home, a forbidden entanglement with Dare—a magnetic, self-destructive ex-football player—tempts her to return to old ways, while the arrival of Banner, a grounded, kind-hearted man, offers a different kind of love: steady, generous, and real.
Between ecstatic dance nights, poolside confessions, family drama, and her own inner turmoil, she finds herself facing the one question that will make or break her: What does it mean to choose the person who is a true fit? And can you do that while choosing yourself, too?
Drawing creative inspiration from her own story and written with gratitude and admiration, the book is a tribute to the forces that shape us—particularly the enduring influence of a father whose example quietly shaped her grit and ambition, and to the many men who, in ways both tender and challenging, contributed to the personal growth that ultimately found its way onto the page. Though inspired by real emotional terrain, the story is entirely fictional, weaving themes of recovery and renewal while gently opening the door to alternative and research-driven approaches to healing.
Wry, heartfelt, and deeply honest, Honk If You Have Been Married to Me is a novel of self-discovery, friendship, and the messy, magical road to a love that’s a perfect fit.

Michelle Hardesty is a business leader, philanthropist, and lifelong advocate for community wellness and expanded opportunity across the communities she supports. She serves as Executive Director and a lifetime board member of the Hardesty Family Foundation, where she guides initiatives in workforce development, mental health, addiction recovery, education, the arts, and social services.
Honk If You’ve Been Married to Me is her debut novel. Inspired by stories of recovery, plant medicine, transformation, and the human capacity to begin again, the book explores the universal search for voice, love, and self-love. While grounded in emotional truth and shaped by relationships that have influenced her life—including the steady presence of a father who helped form her strength and determination—the novel is a work of fiction, inviting readers to see pieces of their own journey reflected in its humor, heart, and hard-won wisdom.
A graduate of New York University with a B.A. in Journalism, Michelle has also completed a 200-hour yoga teacher certification with additional trauma-informed training. She is deeply interested in research-driven approaches to mental health, including EMDR, mindfulness, and emerging psychedelic-assisted therapies such as ketamine- and psilocybin-supported treatment.
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